How Well Do you Communicate with your Significant Other

It is a normal Sunday morning when we get a phone call. A phone call from a sad husband who doesn't communicate with his wife. Nor does she with him. It was sad, heartbreaking and to be completely honest infuriating. Being brought into someones lives in this way was not an ideal situation, but it did make Don Juan and i think about a few things. How do we communicate? How easy could we turn into that couple that felt so insecure in their relationship they reached out to outside sources for comfort, reassurance, and advice? i would dare to say pretty easy.

I count myself lucky. Don and I have always been able to talk to each other. neither one of us gets hot and bothered and storms out of rooms. that is just not our style. my style is more walk right into the battle head on, fight it out until the battle is over. Bring it on. Don is more of a just say sorry and be done with it because it doesn't matter type of fighter.Tempers aren't lost very much, which is good, but we do have many a long long long long discussions(which i have to take the blame for).

It came to our attention this weekend that not everyone communicates like this, or at all, sadly. Our communication is not perfect, there are numerous times I don't understand why Don Juan doesn't react and do things the way I need, but I have to remind myself he cant read my mind, If I would just tell him what I want.need he is more than happy to oblige, and I know there are times where Don Juan doesn't always tell me what he wants/needs because he wants to take care of me. Its a horrible cycle but we see it and we acknowledge it.

What would happen if we didn't?What would happen if I never told my spouse what I wanted? what if when I did he never responded the way I needed? What if both of us decided that being right, and that our desires and feelings were the most important and we didn't really try to understand or make the other happy? What if  I chose being right over being happy?

I know what happens, because I unfortunately saw it this weekend. It scares me because it is miserable.
It scared us enough to have a weekend talking fest. We were honest with each other about how we felt about everything. We discussed how each others actions effected the other.we discussed what we found acceptable and not acceptable. It was miserable and wonderful at the same time. We are stronger for it. And maybe, just maybe this wide communication barrier all women and men seem to have got broken down a bit. Maybe we in this household have shrunk that gap, that hole, for us. Maybe.

for that couple who I know will never read this, although at first I was not appreciative of being drug into your marriage mess, I am now grateful for what It has helped us achieve and I wish nothing but the same for you..
Good Luck

End Of The School Year Party/Dinner

Congrats to my cute little nuggets as they finished kindergarten and 2nd grade.

we are now  officially in summer vacation.

We had our annual end of school year dinner/party. I made flag garland as decoration and the kidletts didn't even notice. That was pretty much the extent of my party decoration skill, 

It only required me to cut up some old sheets and hot glue them onto some string, and to be honest those sheets had it coming to them, they were giving me the evil eye for quite some time.

Thanks to the Knolls for coming and having the party with us. It was quite enjoyable

Don Juan fancies himself a comedian

Have I ever mentioned that don Juan finds himself quite hilarious? I haven't? Well that might be because he seems to be the only one:).
He has struck again
A few years ago he had a dream that he came home from work and found a shirtless man wondering around out house. The man was tan, ripped, and was wearing tighter jeans than don Juan thought possible. He asks me who this man is and I tell him Kyle. Ke comes over while you are working and keeps me company.

Then he woke up.
So Kyle has been a running joke in our house.
When the homeless man walked up to Clint and Candice while they were getting married ( dons brother) and just stood there and watched, don Juan asked what Kyle was doing at the wedding

When I don't answer my phone I tell him I was busy with Kyle

Son told me I should get Kyle to do the yard work...

You get the idea.

So don Juan is gone for the day and u get a great delivery.

i have to admit this was a funny one

It was just that kind of day.

Dinner didn't get made tonight. You know it was just that kind of day. Jude got attacked by an army of ants.....( it made my skin crawl to see thousands of them climbing up his legs)
Logan came home from school trying not to cry because some girls called him an over rated loser which I'm pretty sure they don't even know what that means, and I finally re-painted my yellow wall which I have never been in love with... It just wasn't what I pictured. Sooooo yeah dinner didn't get made

The Ogden Marathon

It is done. All that training and stressing and eating. A bunch of us did this together but because I took so long to finish I could only snap a picture with these two.

Britany and Josh got away before we could get a picture of them

actually Britany waited around for me to finish, you know probably a good 4 hours after she finished her half.

That's a good friend.

I did not enjoy miles 17-26.2

but now I can say I did it, and  I can honestly say I will never do another

Its been since Saturday and my ankles are still a little swollen

not my thing

I am Lucky

Yeah I know our little kidletts are getting so big. 

I am one lucky lady to be able to stay home with them.Sometimes I forget that little fact when the monotony of being a stay at home mom kicks in

and then I get things like this in the mail.

 besides the fact that I feel much too young to be getting an invite like this,

 besides the fact that I find this grinning man kind of creepy.

 I am instantly reminded of how lucky we are all here to be with our loved ones, some people are not so lucky. I am reminded that of what is really important in this silly little time we have here

I am lucky 

I am grateful 

I am happy

 However,I will not be hiking with a big grin on my face like this creepy fine sir.

nor will I be attending this event. 

I will celebrate with my Family

But Thank You

Really Jude? Really?

can anyone see my little devil in this mess? he is in there. 

he was supposed to be cleaning this mess he has made in his room and this is how I find him.

I cant really blame him  love sneaking a nap in in the middle of the day, and he has obviously been working hard this morning, I mean do  you think it is easy to make your room look like this? its not. It takes hard work and dedication...

he deserves his nap

the little turd